I work with men who want to heal from their compulsive behaviors.

How I work

I teach and guide a practice called Focusing. It offers a different way to work with the feelings and urges that you’ve been struggling with.

When something in you wants to do the thing you’re trying to stop, turning toward it can seem like the last thing you should do. But that is part of what we learn: how to be with what’s happening inside without fighting it or having to act on it.

This takes more than deciding to be kind to yourself. Focusing is a specific skill. I help you sense how a difficulty feels in your body, find words for what you’re experiencing, and stay with what isn’t clear yet. You don’t have to know how to do this before we begin.

What comes is nearly always surprising. An urge or feeling you’ve only wanted to escape may begin to make sense in a way it hasn’t before. There can be relief, deep emotional healing, and new possibilities for how you respond.

I’ve practiced Focusing since 2009. My role is to help you learn this way of working with yourself and bring it to the places where you keep getting stuck. We work with what you’re actually experiencing, without requiring you to feel differently or reach a particular outcome.